This abusive relationship quiz tries to help you see whether you are in an emotionally harmful relationship and whether you suffer from emotional abuse from your partner. You can read more about emotional abuse and its effects under the form.
How does the abusive relationship quiz work?
This questionnaire is designed to offer you the most common signs and situation of emotional abuse in a relationship so you can see whether your relationship fits the description. There are 28 situations that concerned the behavior your partner has, the way you interpret it and the feelings you have in relation to what is happening to you. Once you choose the ones that best apply to you then you are given an interpretation of your relationship, whether it is abuse and whether you need to ask for professional help.
Defining an abusive relationship
Emotional or psychological abuse is the behavior that aims to control another person and to belittle whilst diminishing all their confidence and can occur in many domestic circumstances. A great focus is put on abusive relationships as there are especially many cases of women that undergo such psychological measures that sometimes lead to domestic violence.
The three main patterns of emotional abuse are aggression, denial and minimization. The first one is the most obvious or can be hidden in the shape of advice and includes verbal abuse, criticism and attempt to demean. Denying is the tendency to distort another person’s beliefs while the abuser tries to change or refuses to accept real facts. Minimizing is a derived form of denial that occurs when the abuser, whilst accepting the existence of a situation or fact, tries to minimize the impact or importance and belittles another person’s feelings or opinions on that matter. In the case of intimate relationships things get more complicated as there are usually feelings of love and loyalty involved and sometimes families that are formed and children involved as well.
Signs of an emotionally abusive relationship
- Verbal aggression (humiliation, bullying, criticism, offences, blame, invalidating, name calling, threatening, ordering)
- Dominant behaviors (preventing the other person from taking decisions, doing things on their own, being in contact with certain people, being judgmental, false advice )
- Jealous behaviors (possessiveness, excessive control, constant criticism, invention of situations, false accusations)
Consequences of abusive relationships
Emotional abuse can have devastating effects on young women but also in partners of a certain age whom consider they stand no choice but to accept this abuse. Such treatments can affect emotional balance and psychological health on the long term and they usually start by the victim underestimating themselves and even finding excuses for the abusers and reasons why they might deserve to be treated like that. Sometimes the victim develops anxiety, depression and even suicidal thoughts. Abuse of any kind leads to a loss of trust in all persons around and decreased performance in the work place and even to health impairment.
How to deal with emotional abuse
There are certain measures that should be taken to prevent abusive relationship and these start from knowing which are the rights one has in a relationship and acknowledging that everyone should be treated with respect. There are boundaries to be set and one should be very careful with people not to cross them. In case of an existing relationship, the victim needs to clarify how she or he feels about what is happening and to understand why that relationship is harmful for them. Taking distance and an actual stand to the aggressor is crucial in this stage. In every country there is special help that can be accessed in cases of domestic abuse but there can also be resorted to counseling to establish self worth and confidence.27 Dec, 2014